Dating at times is too difficult for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via myspace, many singles still realize it’s an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain a good satisfying intimate relationship.
May these be unrealistic objectives and fantasies about partners and relationships which drive you to expect the improbable (and blame your lovers time and again)? May this be your understanding of reality, being convinced that “your way” from thinking, feeling and working on things is always “the best suited way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become concious of a host of factors which drive you to fail inside your relationships. Could it be your conduct towards the other sex? Could these be your doubts and needs which travel you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these get messages you internalized during a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – information which now, as any, come back to haunt you?
It happens to be as if meeting “the proper person” stays only a dream. Many singles holiday resort to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating specialists with the task of matching them with the “right” someone, convincing themselves that they are simply too busy to look, search and find.
Accordingly, it makes no difference on how many dates they go and how many relationships they attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple purpose that they just never take time to understand what they do which inturn harms their attempts.
But is it seriously so? Is it really a lack of time that inhibits these individuals from finding the right person? And also could it be that even when that they meet a potential spouse many singles just don’t know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they’re unaware of the many ways in which that they sabotage their attempts for intimacy?
Taking responsibility for your success or catastrophe at relationships is a key to making a significant switch leading to success. It is only once you take responsibility and become truly motivated to understand, forever, what hinders your initiatives that you embark on the road to success.
Time and again I find singles who, without also knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in romantic relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they just do not know what they need to change to be able to succeed next time around.
It is as you ask yourself these – as well – questions; when you glance inwards and observe your self; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have got exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think how you approach partners and associations.
Self-Awareness might be the only roads you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a partner with whom to develop a very good intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this will be the only road which can take your there.
They will therefore resort to finding 1 and thousand excuses to justify their failures, certainly not the least is: shortage of your energy. Resorting to dating services is normally one way to not take obligations for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “