Yes, my oldest daughter scrolls, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely concious of when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a handful of new pieces from the best and newest fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the superior of her sharing list these days.
Which has a palpable gratitude for all in the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to discuss her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. Your lady shared that while camp is touted as a spot for a be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, improve a connection to nature, and explore your core through contemplation and solitude, the time of it all is to come to understand that inner correlation is available anywhere, anytime, and most importantly in the NOW.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit odd to her now, articulating that while appreciative with the sentiment, she hoped that her fellow campers felt free to be themselves beyond the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating out. In short, everywhere.
While some parents desire status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for a children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those outside walls pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own home be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Whereas we encouraged all of our children to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that your decision to return is now totally up to her. As any discussion ensued, I started to be almost mesmerized by the woman’s capacity to articulate her vantage point on the subject.
This lady went on to give the example of seeing quite definitely that she doesn’t need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything several (a camper) to feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a great thing, she knows that the girl with enough just as she is by means of or without camp to help you remind her of that internal knowing.
Yes, my little girl has her challenges, the girl’s snarky attitudes, her minutes of self-doubt. Yes, she can sometimes be mean to the woman’s siblings, sassy to the woman’s parents, generally ornery. Yet nevertheless, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve don’t just her, but the world at large, quite well.
She promised me that she was not “knocking” camp in any way and may choose to return, but if she does go back designed for another year or some, it would not be because the camp experience allows the girl’s to feel more unique in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, main (soul) choice to attend since she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” destination to be herself fully globally.
Indeed, a typical teenager in so many ways, Except underneath the North Face overcoat and the Ugg boots, lurking behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent monitor, and even beyond our sexual family discussions and shared dinners, there lies some self-awareness and interior starting that seems unfathomable for the child her age.
I was truly blown away by her expression from deep wisdom that has applied many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches throughout different veins of the outdoor world to figure out. What a dear girl was announcing through the example of summer camp–one of any feasible outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at meticulously.
Certainly not what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six many back to be exact) at the tender age of 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing with certainty if she would attend, once again, a good three week all girls’ camp for the 5th summer in a row.
We do not need to go anywhere special or do something intriguing to live our own truth. In other words, freedom to be comfortable in this own skin should not be preserved for places that we visit three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all techniques, always.